摩登家庭第三季

摩登家庭最近成了我的电子榨菜，去外面吃饭时会看，坐地铁上下班会看。

记得这还是23年小唐推荐我的，没在网上找到完整的资源，只能在B站上一集集搜切片。

刚开始觉得这样以“亲情”为主题的情景剧很平淡，没有之前看的IT狂人、BBT和老友记有剧情性。

可是在了解了每个人不同个性特色之后，就越来越上头了。

很喜欢这个大家庭成员之间，每个人都会和不同的member产生有趣的故事，小家与小家之间没有什么隔阂，不会有“他家有钱这顿他请客”“每次在我这举行活动都是我收拾”“这件事不要和你爸说”之类琐碎的烦人事。

当然，剧集较现实做了理想化的处理，但就算是一向对任何亲情故事无法共情的我也会在看到某些故事情节时产生“真好啊”的感想。

Phil买了一辆敞篷跑车，当我以为Claire前期的隐忍是为了更大的爆发时，她只是偷偷开去了海边放松一下自己；一家人一起去迪士尼，当我以为Gloria放不下自尊穿fluffy的鞋子，斥责为什么Jay要干涉她的选择时，她只是说谢谢你为我着想。

好像每一个当我以为巴掌要狠打在身上的时刻，他们只是拍了拍彼此的肩膀，说了一句没事，好像家人天生就该如此，对比时刻打开预警系统的我，好像是来自另一个次元。

当然，记录这些感受也不是为了自怨自艾、再次沉浸在自己的消极叙事中。

之前《创伤后的自我疗愈》这本书，里面说成年人在情感承受张力可以依靠后天健康的社交关系重塑，在健康的人际关系中rebuild自己由于早年创伤而损伤的tolerance window。

而我想，看这样的剧，也能慢慢地疗愈自己的小小部分吧。

#06Jay: We all struggle with limitations... Some we're willing to accept... And some we're not. It's never too late to grow in life. #07Manny: He's learning to dance, but he's just to tense.Jay: It's not working out.Manny: 'cause you're not letting go.Jay: I'm trying. Don't you think I want to be all smooth and make your mom happy out there? But I just can't do it, that's all.Manny: Jay, I'm not giving up on you.Mitchell: Okay. Hey, Manny, would you give us a second? Thanks. Dad, look, I-I know this is weird, but you and I are a lot alike. We're self-conscious, okay? So, um, here. Just... Jay: The hell is this?Mitchell: It's just something that some people take at clubs to, you know, loosen up.Jay: You take this?Mitchell: A gay man who hates dancing lives in a sad and lonely little world. This just melts your inhibitions, and-- and you can dance all night. Plus it gives you a raging--Jay: I don't wanna-- I don't like this at all.Mitchell: Just hold on to it. Just in case. Keep it. Come on. It's fine.Gloria: You know, I think I should go home to my loving husband and pull him close and tell him that I danced with 20 men.Jay: He's not home. He's in a dicey neighborhood worried about his car.Gloria: Jay!Jay: What, are we goon kiss or dance?Gloria: Let's dance!Jay: I'm dead set against drugs. "Just say no" and all that stuff. But I thought, just this once for Gloria. And if I was goon make a complete ass of myself, I didn't wanna remember it.Mitchell: The big drug I gave him-- baby aspirin. Orange-flavored. He could have chewed it.#08Phil: There you are. I really need to talk to you.Jay: You really don't.Phil: Jay, please. It's about work. I got a text during your massage. I've been offered a partnership in a new agency. Jay: Oh, good for you.Phil: I am not so sure. I mean, there's--there's a big upside, but I have a stable job right now. I have three kids, and at least one of them's going to college. Worse case scenario, they all go. Jay: Well, what does Claire think?Phil: I haven't told her yet. I wanted to talk to you first. You've done this.Jay: Well, I think that there's only really one question. Phil: Whether I'm ready to run my own company?Jay: Ah, you're great with people. We know you're a good salesman. You've managed to provide a good living in tough times. Phil: Then what? Is this the right time?Jay: Never a perfect time. House could burn down tomorrow. Question is, do you want this? Phil: Yeah. Yeah, I really want it. Jay: Then gamble on yourself. I'd gamble on you.Phil: I'm gonna do it.Jay: There you go.Phil: Thanks, Jay.Jay: If I could only save one possession in a fire, probably my first set of golf clubs. My old man gave 'em to me. Gloria: The engagement ring that Jay gave me that changed my life.Mitchell: Lily's adoption papers.Cam: I was gonna say adoption papers. So I guess, then, I would say y mom's recipe book.Phil: All our family photos... which I keep on my iPad, so my iPad.Claire: As long as I have my family, I wouldn't need anything else.All: Aw, man!Claire: What!Phil: You say something like that, it makes us all seem petty.Claire: Well... I know.All: Hiss!#09Cam: There are dreamers and there are realists in this world. You'd think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists, but more often than not, the opposite is true. You see, the dreamers need the realists to keep them from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists... well, without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground. #10Cam: Jay! Jay! Jay!Jay: You wanna hug me, don't you?Cam: I kind of do.Jay: 4 to 5 seconds.Cam: 45 seconds?Jay: 4 to 5 seconds.Cam: Oh, okay.Gloria: Family is family. Whether it's the one you start out with... the one that you end up with... Or the family that you gain along the way... Which makes every day December 16th.#12Claire: You know, this is your fault.Jay: What?Claire: The way we compete with each other it's-- is sick. It's so sick, two 13-year-olds know how to take advantage of us. And you know what? You made me this way.Jay: How do you figure that?Claire: Dad! You pushed me into sports. You never let me win. You know, that stuff... it does something to a girl.Jay: For your information, you came out of the womb like that. I'm not entirely sure there wasn't a twin in there you bumped off.Claire: If you saw that in me, why didn't you discourage it?Jay: Why would I discourage something that I love?Claire: Really?Jay: You kidding? You're a fighter. The thing I love about you is you never give up.Claire: Dad...Dad.Jay: Even though I clearly designed a superior egg container.Claire: Out of your mind, old man.Jay: Only one way to find out.#17Phil: And that was how they apologized to me. At least, I - I think it was. I could never ask them.#21Manny: They say the important thing in life isn't the destination. It's the journey, the challenges you face along the way... the unexpected twists and turns... the disappointments you overcome. But they're wrong. It's all about the destination, especially when the destination is your amazing oceanfront hotel. #24Gloria: There's certain moments in life that you never forget. Like when I held Manny in my arms for the very first time. I was nervous. I didn't know what I was doing. And I was so excited to see him grow up. And the more he becomes the little man I know today, the more I know I would do it all over again...

每一集25分钟一个小的主题，每一集都告诉你一个小小的人生道理。

很多地方都单刀直入，我也想要这么和你们一路笑一路闹慢慢长大。

我希望有一天我们也可以坦然接受同性恋，接受领养另外一个种族的孩子，我希望爱情可以改变很多，不用异样的眼光看待年龄肤色种族语言性别等等。

我也希望有个这么有爱的大家庭，虽然会生气会误解会犯错误，但是25分钟内我们会看到一切重归于好。

感谢这部剧。

06（保护与面对同龄女的自我认可） 08（big one Gloria mommy Own charms He between jay phil ） 09（Haley power Dreamers realists lovers🎃✨） 10（🌟🥹everyday December 16th） 14（so nice Danielle Spanish drama Laugh Betty Luke ） 15（funny adults moment） 16（cool dad,never blew it,doll grows,trust ） 17（period ） 21（journey with u young u and old） 23（draw in reality ） 24（just the same love ballet lily family moments wonderful age for everyone ）

最近厌倦没完没了的阴谋、血腥、冲突，转向这种短平快的肥皂剧，结果还不错。

人物性格非常鲜明，我爱这种夸张性格的美式幽默。

臭美的，时不时愤愤你们美国人怎么怎么的Gloria，老实，有时有点狡猾，有时异想天开的小胖子Manny，觉得自己就是真理的Claire，非常感性的Phil，有点自私的Mitchell，爱打扮的Haley，自觉天才的爱学习的Alex等等。

每次看都会特别羡慕他们这个大家族那么有爱那么温馨，即使有争吵有互相伤害可是他们仍旧是彼此最爱的人。

它也教会了我和家人相处的一些方法，要永远记得最爱你的永远都是你的家人所以如果有矛盾也一定要讲开，不要让矛盾成为缝隙离彼此越来越远，爱也要大声说出来，爱需要表达需要理解。

只有在爱里我们才能成为更好的自己。

典型肥皂剧，特别适合一边做点无关紧要的事一边看。

各种生活琐碎集合成一起就恰到好处的发生神奇作用。

全家似乎都患有不同层度的神经质，里面每个人都是一只偏执的小魔怪。

编剧可以让这家人在准备个圣诞节的时候把所有倒霉的事都凑合到了一起，把所有想象中设计的美好情景都被现实给毁得各种哭笑不得。

最后再补多一枪，把温馨注入，一切又回到当初的美好。

生活并不是你设计情景里的那么完美，但依然可以欢乐无比。

我特别喜欢美剧里面把人物刻画得有各种缺点角色，我倒觉得这样更加真实和完美。

这可能也是我喜欢这部剧的主要原因。

我喜欢你并不是你完美无缺，而是我明知道你有各种缺点我还依然爱你。

里面充满各种生活的琐碎。

为了一个碗，为了双高跟鞋，为了一句口头禅，反正你意想不到的都可以引发一场小规模争吵。

这就是真实的生活场景。

笑中有泪的剧情，让人无法抵抗。

最让我感动的是Luke对已经经不起过山车狂摔的Dumphy安慰了句，没事，就算你以后坐轮椅，我也会用最快速度推你，让你依然能感受这样刺激。

我也要感叹句，要怎么样才能有luke这样可爱的儿子！

Claire身材真好，一看就是经常运动的，看那肌肉线条！！！

ep1Dylan真是越看越有意思，最开始就觉得他是一个脏兮兮、有点笨的青春期荷尔蒙茂盛的男孩子，虽然现在依然是，但是就显得有点可爱了哈哈哈哈哇！

Lily长大了！

L都会讲话了！

Alex和小男孩通过再一次亲吻还初吻太有意思了！

ep2Cam和Lily在一起的时候就像两个小孩子，Mitch加入之后就是三个小孩，其实Cam和Mitch在一起时也像两个小孩😂ep3Cam和Mitch的减肥故事好搞笑啊😂又可怜又好笑ep16Lily坐在车里的时候好可爱啊！！！

看这部剧的过程就是一个恋爱的过程，第一季的时候一见钟情看哪哪好相见恨晚，第二季的时候热恋时的幻觉破灭觉得对方好像有点烦但还是在一起吧，第三季的时候终于走出热恋期看见真实的彼此但更爱对方，总之看部剧看出恋爱的感觉，那是真爱啊所有的一切归为两个字：包容。

里面的人物或多或少有点小毛病，最突出的就是所有人都会坚持一个根本用不着坚持的点，还不许别人触碰和违背，这种时候就会觉得“怎么会这样啊，看开点不就好啦”，但回头一想，看不开的是自己啊，既然自己看得开，那对别人看不开这点看开点不就好啦。。

果然说别人容易，改变自己是最难的，想通这点以后，突然觉得里面的人物都像家人一样亲切此剧围绕三个家庭展开：代表资产阶级的Jay一家，代表中产阶级的Michael一家和代表无产阶级的Clair一家（在美国一个房产销售可以养活一家五口人真是奇迹啊，不过第三季他们翻身了，Phil开始自己去做公司合伙人）Jay是Clair和Michael的爸爸，离婚以后和年轻漂亮的Gloria结了婚，Gloria带来了她和前夫生的儿子MannyClair是Jay的大女儿，和Phil结婚以后辞了工作做起了主妇，他们有三个孩子，分别是大女儿Haley，二女儿Alex和小儿子LukeMichael是Jay的二儿子，出轨后和同性爱人Cam生活在了一起，他们领养了一个越南女孩儿，叫Lily，Cam辞职在家带Lily，Michael继续做他的环保律师说说每个人的特点吧Jay：好胜、理智、心直口快、看似不讲情面但心中深深藏着对家人的爱，他有记得第一次陪Michael喝酒的情景哦。。

Gloria：热情奔放、嗓门大，对别人好、有时候太好，不忍心拒绝别人，她最大的特点应该她的美貌哈哈，但是又一次，她为了救掉下游泳池的小狗，愤然跳了下去。。

Manny：早熟、感性、喜欢作诗和追女孩子、对运动不在行Clair：典型的Jay的女儿，好胜、喜欢竞争、喜欢一切都井井有条、可以说为家庭牺牲了自己的事业，有时候被压抑得实在不行了回去小疯狂一下，比如会一个人去打枪，还开车到海边在沙滩上侧翻结果把车钥匙翻掉了。。

Phil：二货一个，感性，囧，好像很会按摩。。

Haley：叛逆少女，爱漂亮，但是她给我印象很深，首先是她对感情的忠贞，其次是她对孩子的温柔，当然还有她对自己家庭的感情Alex：其实也很漂亮，但爱读书，被Haley称为书呆子，她有句让我印象深刻的话：“and one day，your hotties will work for my nerds"，当然这句话是对Haley说的Luke：怪咖一个，绝对随他爸。。

但也是个Sweet的好孩子，后期有点变”坏“的迹象，一直自封为家中的”the cute one“Michael：Jay家人，理性，洁癖，很恰当的个人主义，gay。。

我觉得他对Cam很好Cam：农场长大的二货。。

感情太充沛了，现在有点烦他。。

Lily：小时候很萌的，长大了换了个演员不好看了，但还是很乖，想起她在婚礼上为了逗Cam笑故意大声说了好几声F*ck，其实Cam只是感动的哭了。。

另外，整剧笑点颇多，双关语无数，绝对可以练到英语。。

Gloria和Stella“斗智斗勇”真的太好笑了，Stella才是Jay的掌上明珠。

Stella走丢Cam戏精上身大声喊史黛拉真是看一次笑一次。

Jay为了满足Gloria一起跳莎莎舞的愿望不惜“磕药”男友力真是爆棚啊第一季Jay用飞机爆了Phil的头，第二季Phil帮Jay修打印机，第三季Phil给Jay按摩让Jay舒服的脱口而出I love you。

他俩真太搞笑了全家提前过圣诞和全家一起为Claire拉选票异曲同工的好笑，自家人坑自家人各种巧合每一个成功的🤣Alex“那是男人针对女强人的专用词 因为他们感觉受到威胁 所以忘掉一切 强势不屈 舍我其谁”👍很喜欢他们一家去迪士尼那集（可能因为我很想n刷迪士尼），Jay给歌姐买了双很可爱的拖鞋，对她说“买什么都可以 宝贝”。

我死了～最后一集Cam和米球领养孩子的希望破灭是我整个摩登看的最难受的部分，不是因为剧情，而是因为这两位的演技，超级大爆发，太有代入感了。